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Yesterday, we discovered that our internet provider somehow hadn't registered our change of address with our move, even though I had specifically told them we were moving and changing our service address. That led to a 30-minute phone call in the middle of date night, but the service was eventually restored.

This morning, I discovered that in addition to that issue, my desktop also somehow stopped recognizing its WiFi card. Even though it was working perfectly the day before.

I have a bunch of projects to work on and almost all of them are web-based right now. Now is not the time for technical difficulties. 🤬



I can't believe I'm only now discovering the IndieWeb.



Mike Rugnetta, one of my favorite humans I've followed on the internet, about why he's deleting his tweets:

It is not that I wish to rid myself of the ~inconvenience~ of having ~opinions~ but that I do not wish to re-litigate subject matter from 2012. But in many cases the persistent document of Twitter allows for points to remain open. The always-there reply button means a conversation is never settled – unless, of course, it is removed.

I am not running away from my past (as I think is sometimes the charge when someone boots their twoots). My principles have not radically altered in the last ~10 years. The core tenets are the same, I think: consider others, believe what they tell you, think with compassion and openness but without tolerance for hatefulness. But I have changed a lot, and how I communicate about and put into action those principles has changed. A persistent document of 40,000 (yikes) tweets cataloging my intentions and viewpoints literally up to the minute feels as though it ties me to some incorrectly stable version of myself, a weird and impossible amalgam of past and present. I don’t trust that document in the hands of the public or – honestly – an increasing number of governments. A public, persistent, and fixed catalog of one’s moment-to-moment outlook is a very unique document – and one we don’t yet have a widespread norm in interpreting.
Why I Deleted My Tweets

Oh no, that WordPress embed does not work well in Frio on Firefox for Android. Clicking "Continue reading" does nothing.

And yet, his deleted tweets have been archived in 1, 10, 100 places maybe. I understand the impulse but there's a risk to be reminded of tweets we thought deleted forever. It's obviously more likely for famous people but who plans their fame?



rude but eminently fair

Twitter: Vivian on Twitter (Vivian)

Why Google Calendar? It is is so ubiquitous it doesn't really indicate much?

True. I think the meme comes from a time when it was slightly less ubiquitous, and Google Calendar was the way to share calendars easily. In a vacuum, I wouldn't consider it a sign, but paired with other indicators I would.



oh, Jabber and Spit, I totally double-booked myself for date night tonight

crap crap crap



Pleasant recent surprise: a lot of my writing for my (incomplete) NaNoWriMo project from 2013 is actually pretty dang good!

I should maybe write some short fiction again.

I think they're two sides of the same issue, perhaps, since in the process of copying and reorganizing, I've definitely ended up with duplicates and triplicates.

Fair enough, I've lost 40GB of music files in one of the computer moves, this actually prompted me to sign up for Spotify.



this is one of my better posts of the last year and you can't tell me otherwise
dating advice: The most attractive thing is to be confident!
me: ok
me: (confidently flirts with crushes)
me: (confidently tells crushes all about my insecurities and anxieties)
dating advice: wait a sec
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Olly from Philosophy Tube always does great work, and this is no exception. An excellent video on arguments for privacy in the age of big tech.

Of course, me being me, I particularly appreciated his point about how mass surveillance creates a power imbalance that we can't meaningfully withdraw consent from.

# #

YouTube: Data | Philosophy Tube (Philosophy Tube)



I DID A FIRST DATE AND THERE WERE SMOOCHES

VERY VERY GOOD ONES

AND THEY LIVE IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD

the person, not the smooches

though I guess that kinda extends to the smooches after all

I told one of my friends about this, and he responded, "NATURAL TWENTY"

and yeah, that's kinda how I feel too 😊



I have a six-client day ahead of me, and my weekend doesn't start until tomorrow evening, but I just had an an idea that resonated so strongly with me that I want to drop everything and write about it.

It actually feels like something I might be able to write a book about, as wild as that sounds.

Dammit, why do I have to work?



This is delightful. You know how some videos have an accursed vibe? This is the exact opposite of that.

Twitter: qrtr pounder on Twitter (qrtr pounder)



Hey #, what does the Mastodon interface for adding custom emoji to your instance look like? Is there such a thing? I don't have a Mastodon instance of my own, but I'm really curious to see, learn, and possibly replicate on Friendica via add-on.

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Emoji Test Post


This is a public post to test how emoji display! I'm making it public so that a friend who's not currently in the Fediverse can see.

🤠🌮🖌🥃🥓

Left to right: Cowboy, taco, fountain pen, scotch, bacon.



Filtered word: nsfw

Filtered word: nsfw

This is all very useful, thank you!



Inconsistency in Friendica parsing mentions


aka "parse" no longer looks like a word

I've noticed a couple issues with mentioning (tagging profiles).

The parser does not appear to parse mentions followed immediately by certain punctuation unless the same mention is also repeated elsewhere in the message body without any such trailing characters.

Functional punctuation (functuation?) includes .?,

Non-functional punctuation includes '!)]

If my message only contains @[email protected]'s handle immediately followed by nonfunctional punctuation, as this one does, it won't parse (notice the 's at the end of the handle). However, if I include the bare handle elsewhere in the post, it'll kick in and replace all mentions of that handle. You can try this yourself in a comment or your own post.

Interestingly, this also happens if I include the bare handle within [noparse] tags. If there are only two mentions of an account, one in the main body and with a trailing 's, and one in [noparse] tags without any trailing forbidden characters, the [noparse] one will parse, and will force the replacement of the other one as well.

There's also something weird going on where I can't consistently get the mention suggestion dialog to display. As I'm editing this post, for instance, I can type @sd and wait for the little box to suggest profiles, but no matter how long I wait, it does not show up.

And since we've reached the point of semantic satiation with "parse", here's a photo of parsley.
Parsley
Photo by Tharish on Wikimedia Commons (CC BY-SA 3.0)

cc: # # @Friendica Support
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Here's a comment that includes @sdub's handle with trailing naughty punctuation, and also without, because @sdub is a hoopy frood.

If I edit this comment, the mention suggestions don't seem to work.
@sdub
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Fediverse admins, does anyone have any good examples of Codes of Conduct that incorporate transformative justice principles or approaches? # # # # #

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"Profile is not published."


Whenever I go to my settings panel, a little dialog in the corner informs me my profile is not published. But as far as I can tell, this is wrong; I have only one profile, and it's publicly visible.

Is there something I need to do to make this alert stop generating, or is it just a bug?

Paging @Friendica Support .

It's a weirdly displayed reminder that your profile hasn't been published in the local or the global directory.

Thanks, all. That makes sense. Seems like the wording could use a little more specificity?



The default # user image isn't really to my liking--it seems dated and it uses pure black, which often looks harsh--so I made a new one for my instance:

An abstract human head and shoulders, in a gradient going from yellow to red to teal.

An abstract human head and shoulders, in dark grey

This is a quick first stab at it, but if you like it, feel free to use it. I'm releasing both of these under CC-BY-4.0. I also have a SVG version, but sharing that's gonna be a bit tougher at the moment.
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Here's what one of these might look like in context: A Friendica page with the default user icon replaced with Spencer's dark grey abstract one



I just got a good 20 minutes into trying to diagnose and bug-report issues with my graphics tablet before I realized that the stylus probably wasn't charged.

Update: This was precisely the issue.



On Objectivity


I started writing this in response to a Reddit post about "objective board game criticism", then figured it was better suited to a long post elsewhere. So, hi, elsewhere.

I guess this starts with a simple assertion: words fuckin' mean things.

To be objective means to be uninfluenced by personal feelings, opinions, or values. To critique something inherently involves a set of values; you're saying that some qualities are worth striving for, and others are not. You cannot have "objective criticism". That's an absurd oxymoron.

There appears to be a growing trend recently of people trying to deny that they have subjective opinions and instead trying to couch their beliefs in objectivity. "Candy Land is an objectively bad game!", they might say, as if the first person to use the word "objectively" wins the argument. But something cannot be "objectively bad", because "bad" implies a value judgment. It is an objective fact that Candy Land involves no player choice, true... yet, that doesn't make it an objectively bad game, it just makes it a game with objectively no player choice. The judgment is subjective. Candy Land's lack of player choice might in fact make it a good game if you are aiming to teach a two year old the basics of drawing cards and moving pieces.

"Well, okay," you might say, "but for adults, Candy Land is never going to be fun." And sure! I agree! But that's not the same as "objectively bad." You've introduced another value: you're judging the game on whether adults are likely (in your opinion) to enjoy it. That's a perfectly reasonable criterion, to be clear, but it's just not objective.

The entire act of judging, of critiquing, of having an opinion is inescapably subjective, and that's okay. I think criticism, especially amateur criticism, would be in a much better place if people gave up on trying to "oBjEcTiVeLy PrOvE" their opinions and instead practiced evaluating arguments as the subjective things they are.

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This "feelings are objectively bad" trend is aggravating and is over-represented among white male STEM people. When it just is about board games, it is fine, but it often spills over to other social areas where it takes the form of incel and men's right activism or straight out antisemitism and islamophobia through a warped form of atheism.

Absolutely. Since this started as a comment in the board games subreddit, I shied away from explicitly making that connection, but yeah, this is a huge issue among white cis men. We're taught to see ourselves as "default" and "apolitical". So many guys are intensely allergic to the mere suggestion that they're no more "default" or "apolitical" than anyone else. "Objectivity" is another way to preserve that idea of superiority and neutrality.